Being a mom—especially a postpartum mom—comes with challenges. You’re navigating the physical recovery after childbirth, balancing the needs of your family, and managing the emotional ups and downs that often come with motherhood.
It’s not easy, and at times, it can feel like your energy is constantly being drained.
But sometimes, there are people or situations in our lives that just seem to suck the life out of us. These "energy thieves" thrive on negativity and drama, and they can leave us feeling mentally and physically exhausted. If you’ve ever encountered someone like this, you know how difficult it can be to stay strong and positive.
Here are 5 strategies to help you protect your energy and reclaim your strength:
1. Don’t Engage in the Drama
As a mom who’s already balancing so much, you don’t have the luxury of engaging in negativity. Whether it’s a toxic family member, a friend, or a colleague, energy thieves want to bring you into their chaos. They may throw insults or complaints your way, hoping to drag you down into their emotional whirlpool.
Instead of reacting, take a step back. Don’t engage with their negativity. Try to see things from a place of compassion—this person is probably hurting and projecting their pain onto you. A simple way to diffuse the situation is by responding with empathy. For example, "Could you be feeling overwhelmed because your need for peace isn’t being met?" This allows you to maintain your emotional boundary while showing kindness.
2. Understand the Need for Boundaries
Sometimes, energy thieves reject your care or sympathy. They may push away any attempt to show compassion because they are so wrapped up in their own struggles. You might feel like you want to fix things for them, but remember, you are not their savior.
As a mom already tending to your own needs, it’s okay to step back. Offer resources, suggestions, or helpful tips, but don’t absorb their negative energy. It can lead to burnout and even illness if you internalize it. You deserve to protect your peace.
3. Step Away When Needed
Distance is a powerful tool. If someone is draining your energy, it's okay to step away from the situation. You don’t have to tolerate negativity, even if it’s coming from family. Just because they’re close to you doesn’t mean you need to let them take up space in your emotional world.
Think of it like creating a safe, nurturing space for yourself. Be selective about who you allow into your life. When you protect your energy and prioritize your own well-being, you’ll have more to give to your family and yourself.
4. Shield Your Energy
It’s crucial to protect yourself from the negativity of others, especially when you're in a vulnerable phase of postpartum recovery. One helpful method is visualizing a shield around you. Imagine it like an invisible force field that bounces off negativity and keeps it from affecting you.
Whenever you feel the weight of someone's negative energy, take a deep breath and imagine your shield protecting you. Remind yourself of your strengths and all the goodness you bring into the world. Take time to recharge by engaging in activities that make you feel happy—whether it’s a quiet walk, a bubble bath, or cuddling with your kids. Refuel your spirit with what makes you feel whole.
5. Know When to Set Boundaries with Technology
In today’s digital world, sometimes the easiest way to protect your energy is by blocking someone from contact. Whether it's a phone call, text, or social media, if someone’s draining you, don’t be afraid to block them for your own well-being. It’s not about being rude; it’s about protecting your peace.
Blocking a person doesn’t always have to be permanent, but it gives you the space you need to recharge and focus on your own health. Remember, you are allowed to take a break from people who deplete your energy.
Mama, You Are Worth Protecting
As a mom, especially a postpartum one, your energy is precious. You are doing an incredible job, and it’s okay to set boundaries to protect yourself. By being mindful of who and what you allow into your life, you can ensure that you’re nurturing your body, mind, and spirit, so you can be the best version of yourself—for you and for your family.
